Hold on to your children

Hold on to your children: Why should parents be closer than friends? By Gabor Maté, Dr. Gordon Neufeld ... The well-known psychologist capable of penetrating the core of complex parenting issues teams up with the doctor and bestselling author to address one of the most alarming and misunderstood trends of our time – peers replacing parents in our children's lives. Dr. Neufeld calls this phenomenon "peer orientation," which refers to children's and youths' tendency to look to their peers for guidance: to distinguish right from wrong, and to draw values, identity, and rules of conduct. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, disrupts the school environment, and promotes a youth culture characterized by aggression and sexuality. This orientation offers a powerful explanation for school bullying and youth violence, and its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs, criminal activities, and tragic incidents as seen in Littleton, Colorado, Tabor, Alberta, Victoria, and British Columbia. It is an increasing trend that has not been sufficiently explained or refuted until the publication of "Hold on to your children." Once this tendency is understood, it becomes self-evident, as do the solutions. This book will restore parenting to its natural, instinctive roots, and also bring the parent-child relationship back to its rightful place. The concepts, principles, and practical advice in "Hold on to your children" will enable parents to meet their children's innate need for guidance by transforming these parents into sources of authority, connection, and warmth. Book information: Author: Gabor Maté and Gordon Neufeld Translator: Norhan Abdel Salam Year of publication: 2023 Publisher: Asir Books Number of pages: 424 Cover type: Paperback