I loved and tomorrow - recovery from harmful relationships

About the book: We always wait for someone... We think that by their coming, all our pains will disappear... We delude ourselves that with their brightness over our dark worlds, confusion and doubt will dissipate, and peace will flood us... We deceive ourselves, our greatest deception, when we whisper to ourselves during times of pain... that someday... and with someone... we will feel complete! But we forget that our flaw is self-made... and that our deficiency is embedded in us like an operating system... and that the very person we saw as the savior and the path to liberation... perhaps is the one who will give us our greatest disappointment... and gather all our gaps into one big gap! And perhaps instead of flourishing beside them... we may wither... and retreat... and fade away... and melt! We forget that we need to improve our companionship with ourselves and heal our souls’ wounds... before we wait for someone else to descend... the other will never be our paradise as long as we only seek to numb our pains through them... and in truth, that relationship is nothing but an unconscious distraction from meeting our true selves and facing our reality! Dysfunctional relationships start here... when the relationship becomes merely an escape and flight... and nothing more... and the most prone to making wrong choices are those who eagerly wait and anticipate with excitement... faces become confusing to them... and they project their emotional emptiness onto a passing face, seeing it differently from its reality... those who think they are healing their thirst by chasing illusions... (until they come to it... and find nothing)! Quotes: "The one who harms does not change except when he hits rock bottom... when he tastes real losses that shake his world violently enough to awaken him." "Don’t stay just because you fear the pain of separation, don’t linger because you are used to companionship, don’t wait just because you cannot bear loneliness, don’t distort your soul by remaining in a relationship that hurts you." "Loneliness is always better than a half-participation, a half-relationship, and false closeness." Publisher: Al Riwaq Publishing and Distribution Author: Emad Othman Year of publication: 2019 Number of pages: 255